People face issues and problems with situations in life like one such received and posted here:
Straight from my Heart!
My husband whom I lost 7 years back worked in a top media house. He was troubled and tortured by his boss at work. He was unable to share this with anyone and continued to be in a stressful situation for a long-long time facing rejection, insult, and anger at work where he spent over ten hours a day for decades.
My man’s behavior…made everyone an ardent fan of his polite disposition. A brilliant orator, excellent negotiator, uniquely intelligent, honest, diligent, and very respectful, a pleasing and charming personality-that was worthy enough to leave a pleasant mark on anyone who met him even once. Sincerity and discipline were his passion, having read ‘The Bhagwad Gita’ at teenage, he held unmatched higher values and a divine grace followed in all his endeavors.
What a loss indeed in ways more than one can explain, irreparable grief for the child, severe life situation for the wife and void for innumerable friends and relations. An unexplainable extend to which the passing of a person can create, financial is still a number but unquantifiable innumerable variables hurl emotional-intellectual-social displacement, if only the hurt makers, the ruthless bosses in offices and overt derogatory remark makers would take cognisance of.
I wish he had resolved the problems and lived longer for us, for all of us… I mean there is a solution to every problem, isn’t it, that’s what the wise men say! In five years of stress, and handling the same insensitive, cynical boss for over a decade, he, a man of few words, rarely troubled anyone with his thoughts. In his attempt to put up a brave face and not let himself feel dismissed, he tried and tried but only to gain more fear of that boss, he fell from daily life activity, gradually… And dementia took over, affecting his very existence, unfortunately as the doctors had presumed. It definitely started with some stress, prolonged and unnoticed – owing to his quiet nature, but how it took the devastating form and whether it was phobia and/or dementia, no one knows. But for sure every day we feel the Need of Him and utterly Miss Him…
Who is to be blamed, the makers and shakers of professionalism thwarting the humane values, the Company’s only for profits – culture or the executives who bear them??
Posted by the wife, a 57 year old from New Delhi


Passiveness, aggression and assertiveness are broadly the three styles we communicate/respond to situations. We need to train ourselves and our children to choose assertiveness right from the beginning.
The situation here is of two extremes. The boss’s aggressive behaviour was rewarded by your husband’s passive response. OR maybe it was the vice versa!
In either case, my take would be to help empower our close ones to be assertive without fear. It would help all concerned, including the boss!!!